{"id":725,"date":"2019-02-09T17:19:25","date_gmt":"2019-02-09T17:19:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/?p=725"},"modified":"2019-05-10T12:46:51","modified_gmt":"2019-05-10T12:46:51","slug":"a-tribute-to-my-grandma-arhelger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/?p=725","title":{"rendered":"A Tribute to My Grandma Arhelger"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>February 2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I never met her, my father\u2019s mother, Gladys Ella Stowe\nArhelger.&nbsp; Born in 1891 in the small town\nof Friendship, Wisconsin, she knew her way around the kitchen, and was known as\na masterful cook and baker.&nbsp; She was also\na survivor, and endured some of life\u2019s toughest circumstances.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My Grandmother Arhelger, who died while I was just a baby,\nmarried Louis Frank Arhelger in 1914.&nbsp;\nThey had 5 children.&nbsp; My\ngrandfather became a Congregational minister.&nbsp;\nThey lived in New Richmond, Wisconsin and made their way, as best they\ncould, during the Great Depression of the 1930s.&nbsp; Being resourceful and hard-working, they had\na good life.&nbsp; My father recalls tender moments\nwith his father\u2014sitting on his lap, eating ice cream\u2014and the loyalty and love\nof his mother, caring for the family.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And then things changed. It was 1937, before the time of\nadequate antibiotic medications.&nbsp; My\ngrandfather became quite ill with pneumonia, dying soon after.&nbsp;&nbsp; Now at the height of the Great Depression, my\ngrandmother was left to care for her children, while dealing with the shock and\ngrief of her husband\u2019s death.&nbsp; But loss\nwas not new to her.&nbsp; A few years earlier,\nher 3-year-old son, Stanley, died, likely from a Wilms tumor. Like so many during\nthe early 1900s, she found herself dealing with seemingly unsurmountable\nevents, and cruel twists of fate.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But this is not a story about loss and grief.&nbsp; It\u2019s about fortitude and resiliency, reaching\ndeep inside, to make your way through what challenges you and takes away\nfoundation and stability.&nbsp; This is what\nmy grandmother Arhelger did.&nbsp; Yes, she\nhad some gut-wrenchingly hard years.&nbsp; But\nshe made her way and provided for her family.&nbsp;\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My father describes how my grandmother spent her mornings in\nthe kitchen, baking up breads and donuts and cookies and more.&nbsp; He was the delivery boy\u2014pulling along his\n\u201cRadio Flyer\u201d red wagon\u2014filled with grandma\u2019s creations, to sell to friends and\nneighbors.&nbsp; She found the means to support\nher family, and she did it.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My father says that his mother was a saint, and an amazing\nperson.&nbsp; He says she was proud to have\nproduced 2 MDs and 1 PhD, the American dream of the time.&nbsp; I don\u2019t doubt any of it.&nbsp; I just wish that I could have known her.&nbsp; What I do know is that I sure do admire her:\nher tenacity and ability to forge on in life, no matter what is thrown at\nyou.&nbsp; I understand that her road was not\nalways easy, and that she experienced her own \u201cdark nights of the soul.\u201d&nbsp; But she made it through.&nbsp; That is what is important.&nbsp; <em>To get\nto the other side.<\/em>&nbsp; Make your way\nthrough the mess.&nbsp; To me this is the\nbadge of not only a survivor, but a thriver.&nbsp;\nAnd a thriver she was. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_4214-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-738\" width=\"456\" height=\"342\" srcset=\"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_4214-1024x768.jpg 1024w, http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_4214-300x225.jpg 300w, http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_4214-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 456px) 100vw, 456px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>A few years back, my cousin, Nancy, sent me a little silver\nspoon that belonged to our Grandmother Arhelger which had the engraving\n\u201cSalmagundi\u201d on it. Nancy was not sure what it meant. My father did not know\neither.&nbsp; But both recall the spoon being associated\nwith some sort of a luncheon club that my grandmother belonged to.&nbsp; I cherish this spoon.&nbsp; It\u2019s really all I have from my\ngrandmother.&nbsp; To me it signifies the joy\nshe likely felt while working away in her kitchen, baking and cooking and\ncreating.&nbsp; It represents her ability to\nmake a new life, and to launch into \u201cluncheon clubs\u201d and be back in the world,\nafter experiencing tremendous difficulties and deep sadness.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I will never forget you, Grandma Arhelger.&nbsp; Thank you for passing along your love of the\nkitchen and cooking and baking to me.&nbsp;\nAnd to my brother Jim, an accomplished baker and chef in his own right. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Who in your family, or in your life, has inspired you?&nbsp; Who has left an imprint on your spirit, on\nyour life?&nbsp; Take some time to<em> acknowledge<\/em> them.&nbsp; If they are alive, <em>thank them<\/em>.&nbsp; Nothing is more\nmeaningful than a letter or phone call from someone whose life you have\nimpacted positively.&nbsp; Not only will this\naction make the recipient of your gratitude feel wonderful, but <em>you <\/em>will feel heartened, too.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With Love,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Gretchen<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>February 2019 I never met her, my father\u2019s mother, Gladys Ella Stowe Arhelger.&nbsp; Born in 1891 in the small town of Friendship, Wisconsin, she knew her way around the kitchen, and was known as a masterful cook and baker.&nbsp; She was also a survivor, and endured some of life\u2019s toughest circumstances.&nbsp; My Grandmother Arhelger, who &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"\" href=\"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/?p=725\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">A Tribute to My Grandma Arhelger<\/span> Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/725"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=725"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/725\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":806,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/725\/revisions\/806"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=725"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=725"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/vibranthealthintegrativenutrition.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=725"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}